Just an Ally
Dear LGBTQ friends:
On behalf of allies everywhere, I would like to apologize for the events of last week. Not all allies are like that. (Missed it? Please read TJ Klune’s blog post.)
Like the author-who-will-not-be-named, I am also attracted to men. The voices in my head are male, but I’m not transitioning. I’m not on the spectrum. I’m just a cis-het woman who writes gay romance. I get that. I get that I am not allowed to identify as a gay man. I have straight, cis-het privilege. I am a cis-het woman. I am an ally, and that is all.
That author hurt all of us with her remarks, her apology-not-apology, and her inaction when others commented that we should be rounded up on an island and iradicated for being haters. She hurt the community, and she hurt fellow allies who, like me, need to now explain that we aren’t like that. In a way, I feel like I’m coming out to you about not coming out.
If I hurt you by identifying as an ally, I am sorry. I don’t want to hurt anyone. My tribe in the LGBTQ community have become the family I didn’t realize I wanted so badly. I have never felt like I belong the way I do with my Pride peeps. I love each of you so much. If I make a stupid, uninformed, ignorant remark, please tell me. I want to learn from my mistakes, and I know I will make mistakes. I’m apologizing in advance. I’m here to learn, and I’m here to encourage a loving community. I love you all.
JUST AN ALLY