Say Something Nice

My grandma loved Bambi. She thought Thumper was adorable, and she loved reminding me of his favorite thing to say. “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all.” My grandma was also a big believer in grammar, so she switched it up a little.

Thanks to the free Starz weekend, I watched Frozen today for the first time. I expected cute, and fun, and beautiful. I did not expect triggers, or angry crying, or this hollow feeling in my heart. And because I will not talk about family issues on my blog, I’m not going to say anything more.

I am sad that I could not enjoy this movie the way my gay friends did. One of my friends has seen this movie a million times, and has performed “Let it Go” in drag. I don’t think I can hear that song again without crying. I wonder what Grandma would say about that.

I worked on Love Your Enemy again this week. That’s the neo-nazi love story. I was going to walk through how I’m not going to make the same mistakes as For Such a Time, by Kate Breslin. I don’t have the energy, and what I have to say wouldn’t be very nice. 

Instead, I’m going to say some kind words for my remaining family, who are hurting over a devastating and unexpected loss. I’m thinking of you, and I wish there was something I could do to ease your pain.

I’m also going to say some kind words for my makeshift family, the wonderful people in my life who have become closer than blood. Do what you need to do, and don’t worry about us. It’s okay if we miss one game. You rescheduled it at the best time ever, so thank you.

I’m going to leave you with one more Frozen meme, this one a crossover with my favorite show:

Having too many feels makes me snarky. Maybe that’s why my grandma kept telling me to shut my mouth.